Humility has become a long-lost value in our world today. We have neglected the act of having humility and admitting our faults. What has happened to the state of our nation? Where has the act of opening up about our mistakes gone? Why has this occurred and what changes can we make to do about it? My intention is to help you uncover the act of having humility and connecting with those that you value the most.
When we think of humility we may think of failure, mistakes, or being vulnerable. All these feelings can initially be uncomfortable, and we tend to stray away from them as much as possible to hang on to our pride and sense of self-worth. We think that maintaining our reputation and holding a perfect image of ourselves will help gain trust and respect from those around us. However, practicing humility can have the exact opposite effects on us. When we practice humility, we gain the ability to connect with others by exposing our vulnerabilities for others to learn from our mistakes, failures, and short comings. We build trust and security in those we lead. Think of a time when you have seen someone exemplify humility? How did you connect with that person? Did you respect that person?
In the past, I found it difficult to look at things through multiple perspectives. I believed that my way of thinking was the only way of thinking and after reflecting on it, it seemed that I had developed a perfect image of how the world should work. Overtime, I was rudely awakened by the fact that my way of thinking is not the only way. I was not always the one that had the right sense of mind in a particular discussion whether it be politics, religion, or how to lead others. I eventually grew closer to the idea of adopting an open mind and learning from multiple perspectives, taking a step back and truly analyzing the situation from all different viewpoints. I found that when I can look at ideas from different viewpoints, my learning exponentially increases and my ability to connect with others and build healthy relationships solidifies in trust and security.
When was the last time you exemplified humility? How did it impact you? What made you own up to your mistake and take responsibility for your actions? It is hard to have security within ourselves when we are always comparing ourselves to others. In the words of Steven Furtick “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” Be your true self! Live a life of integrity and give life to others through having humility.
Carl currently resides in Wichita, KS where he coaches and consults businesses, community groups, and individuals with Exemplify.